Hello my fellow bloggers!
It has been a while since we talked. I guess that is what happens when you feel that you have way too much on your plate. Today, I wanted to write about a particularly frightening subject: parents. I mean, I love my parents and I have had a good life. Now do not worry. This post is not about how my parents never give me anything, blah, blah... This article is about one question. Do we actually turn into our parents when as we grow up?
I look at some decisions that my parents have made, and I think to myself that I would do it completely different. I write on this blog when I have the urge to write, and that includes when I am upset. I recently, recently meaning today, just had all this pent up emotion in me because of all the things I need to pay for and my low amount of income coming in. My mother clearly, knowing that I am upset, feels more compelled to remind me of everything I need to pay for and how much each thing is. Seriously? I am in tears and you have the need to be logical and make the situation worse by reminding me? I think that situations like this is where I question if we are all going to turn into our parents. I think to myself, I would never treat my child that way when they were upset. I would not make the situation worse for my child. I would just shut up and let them cry on my shoulder. It may not seem extremely helpful, but I would rather do that then make them feel worse. I would just tell them that everything is going to be okay and let them cry.
I access situations between my parents and me and look at what I would do differently. Then, I stop and think: Does it even matter to think about what I would do differently? Will I not just end up treating a situation with my kid the same way my parents treat situations with me? Do we just learn so much from our parents that we even learn how to handle situations that we come across the same way as thy would?
I just felt like getting my thoughts and questions written out and out of my mind. If you stuck through this whole post I salute you.
Until next time,
Shannon Nicole :)
